Bouncing Back: Leaning to be Resilient
Resilience is the ability to adapt well in response to stressful events. In our lives we may experience tragedy, adversity, or real or perceived sources of stress. These events can occur in our family or significant relationships, workplace, health, or financial situations.
Resilience is not something you either have or don’t have. While many people are naturally resilient in some ways, it is also a skill that can be developed and even learned. With practice, you can learn behaviors, thoughts, and actions to help you bounce back after trials.
We are all still human no matter how resilient we are. We have emotional and even physical responses to a bad day, but we can train our mind and bodies to bounce back. When individuals find it too difficult to recover from hardship, there is a greater chance of experiencing anxiety, depression, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Qualities of Resilience
What does a resilient person look like? Typically, a person who adapts well to stressful life experiences is also a good communicator and problem-solver. He or she is able to identify and control their emotions rather than be mastered by them. Resilient people have strong self-confidence and self-esteem, believing in their abilities. They are able to set goals, make plans, and follow through with them. They also don’t hesitate to lean on supportive family or other relationships like friends, support or faith-based groups, or mental health professionals, such as a licensed counselor or therapist.
Building Resilience in Stressful Times
Do you consider yourself a person who bounces back from life’s challenges and setbacks? Someone who lacks resilience may focus on life’s problems and feel like a victim. Others may turn to unhealthy behaviors or develop a substance abuse problem. There are genuine ways to improve your reaction to the life’s challenges. Consider the following ideas as resiliency strategies:
The Benefits of Growing in Resilience
There are several advantages to building resilience. One of the greatest benefits is the ability to learn from your experiences and see them as opportunities. When life is viewed from this perspective it is easier to adapt to new situations and remain hopeful in the face of uncertainty.
There are questions you can ask yourself to find the right strategy for learning to bounce back. Consider the following:
What stressful events have I already experienced?
Who did I reach out to during these times?
What did I learn?
What or who gave me hope?
How was I able to overcome?
Finally, be courageous and ask for help when you need it. There are support groups and programs in your community that can help you you in stress and crisis. There are countless resources online and in print for bouncing back after adversity. A licensed mental health professional is also an excellent resource to learn resiliency. You don’t have to wait for a crisis to practice building resiliency. Start building your bounce-back potential today.